Sunday, September 8, 2013
...um... Excuse me?
I was in line at the post office with Chiquita. The man in front of us was turned around looking intently at Chiquita. Finally he asked me, "Is she half Asian or Hispanic?" I answered, "Hispanic." I get questions about her race/ethnicity often enough that I don't think it's a big deal. Then I offhandedly commented, "I think I'd get asked that less if I was a brunette," (I'm a bottle blond). He responded, "Yeah, you should dye your hair to match hers and wear a bandanna."
...wait... What? Why would I wear a bandanna? Was he implying that my Hispanic husband must be a gang member normally associated with bandannas? ...or... yeah, I can't think of any other association... If I had said she was half Asian would he have suggested I wear a kimono?
I knew his comment was just ignorant and his tone of voice indicated he wasn't trying to offend, so I just smiled and didn't say anything else. I mean, really, I didn't even know how to react. I hate the inter-latino prejudices and didn't want to reference any of that, I wasn't even sure what he thought he was saying. Looking back maybe I could have asked him to explain what he meant. Anyhow, I know this won't be the last strange comment I or my child receive.
How would you have reacted?